Sebenzisa eziphambili "iingcamango zokurhweba" ukugcina ukuthengisa kwakho kwindlela yonke imihla
Emva kweempuphu ezimbalwa, siza kuqala ukushaya ibhola ngcono. Wayeza kuqhubeka ethetha ibinzana elifanayo kwezinye iibhothi ezimbalwa.
Kwayathuthuzela. Ikhululile ingqondo yam. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukucinga ngezinto ezilikhulu ezahlukileyo ndandicacile kwinto awayeyithethayo.
Ngelinye ilanga singase sihlasele i-"fat" encinci, kunye nezinye iintsuku ziyikhuphe ngaphandle. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na ingxaki ethile kwimihla enikeziweyo, wayenomhlathi omncinci omncinci osinceda sisebenzise.
Ezi, esizifunde kamva, zibizwa ngokuthi "iingcamango zokuguqula."
Sinazi zonke iingxaki esinazo kumdlalo wethu; Injongo kukudala amabinzana amfutshane afana neengxaki ezithile, kunye / okanye ugcine sigxininise into eyodwa kuphela endaweni yamakhulu. Ukuba igrafu, uyazi ukuba ukucinga malunga neqela lezinto ezahlukeneyo ngelixa uguqa ngumonakalo wokufa kumanqaku akho. Ukuthengwa ngendlela efanayo.
Phantse kwiminyaka eyi-10 kamva ndaqalisa ukurhweba njengomsebenzi wam. Le ngcamango yokuzilolonga iye yaba yingxenye ebalulekileyo ebomini bam bemihla ngemihla.
Eyona nto "Iingcamango zokurhweba"
Abahwebi ngokuqhelekileyo bajamelana nemiba embalwa ephindaphindiweyo okanye ukunyanzeliswa.
Ekubeni usuku ngalunye lucacile, iintsuku ezithile zingakuchukumisa umba othize ongaphezulu komnye uhlobo lwelanga.
Ngokomzekelo, xa imarike iguqula ngokusesikweni oku kunokubangela ukwesaba, okwenza ukwesaba ngakumbi kwaye kungenakwenzeka ukuba uthathe isetups esebenzayo xa ufika (jonga ukunqoba ukuThengiswa koRhwebo).
Xa i-marhwebo iyincinci kakhulu unokuziva ukuba unokufunda kakuhle, kwaye ngoko uhamba-urhwebo. Le mizekelo nje. Thatha umzuzwana uze ucinge ngezinto oza kulwa nazo.
Iingcamango zokurhweba zinokunceda. Ngokukhawuleza xa ubona uhlobo luni, okanye ingqondo uzimisele ukwenza into echasene nesicwangciso sakho sokurhweba , cinga ngengcinga yakho yokuthengisa kuloo ngxaki ethile. Gcina iingcamango ezincinci entloko yakho yonke imihla, uzikhumbuze ngazo zonke imizuzu embalwa.
Iingcamango zokuThengiswa okuThileyo
Iingcamango zokurhweba azilona umlingo, kodwa zimele zibe zizodwa. Iingcamango zethu zorhwebo asinakusebenza ngenxa yokuba unokuba nethambeko elincinane.
Ingcamango yokuhweba imele ibe mfutshane kwaye igxile, ikuxelele ngokuqinisekileyo oko kufuneka ukwenze (okanye ungenzi).
Esinye esilisebenzisa rhoqo: "Ukuqhubeka uthetha." Into engaqhelekanga, kodwa ngelixa kutshatyalaliswa kwemini sifuna ukugcina intetho eqhubekayo ekhanda lethu malunga nento eyenziwa ngayo imarike, kwaye yintoni echaphazela ngayo izigqibo zethu zokuthengisa. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba loo ncoko yayeka ukuba sithandwa kakhulu ukwenza iimveliso ezinomdla. Incoko yahlala isenza sihlale sicwangcisa , ngoko sihlala silawula.
Ngokumalunga nalokhu, ukuba imarike ayinakulungele ukurhweba, siyazikhumbuza rhoqo "Akunakulungeleka" okanye "Suka eceleni." Oku kusenza siphume ngaphandle kweemarike xa kungashukumi kakuhle kwizicwangciso zethu.
Ukuba iimarike zihamba kakuhle sithi "Zithandekayo," yaye ziya kufakelwa ukuba ziqhotyoshelwe kwesi sicwangciso sifuna ukurhweba phantsi kwezi meko. Ngaloo ndlela, xa ukusekwa kwezorhwebo kukhula, kukho ukukhawuleza. Siyazi ukuba iimarike ziyahamba kakuhle kwaye sikulungele ukuphumeza isicwangciso sam sibini ithuba lwenzeka.
Usuku loshishino luzaliswe ngentshukumo yomthengisi onokungena kuyo; ngaba kunjalo zonke iikhakha eziphezulu kunye namacikethi aphantsi kwamathuba okurhweba? HAYI! "Qinisekisa kwisicwangciso" enye ibinzana esiyiphinda ngalo lonke usuku. Kithi, oku kuthetha ukuba kusetyenziswe kuphela isetups evumelekileyo yorhwebo ngokusekelwe kwizicwangciso eziqinisekisiweyo kwisicwangciso sam sokurhweba.
ILizwi lokugqibela
Yiza ngeengcinga eziphambili zokurhweba ezikunceda ukuphatha imiba ethile enxulumene nezoshishino. Ezi zimele zibhekiselele kwimibandela ethile oye uyiqaphela ngokuthengisa kwakho. Nceda ukhumbule iingcinga zokuthengisa xa kuvela imiba ethile.
Kulungile kodwa, rhoqo kwaye uphinde uphinde ucinge iingcinga zakho eziphambili kulo lonke usuku. Ngale ndlela, uncedisa ingxaki ephuma kuqala kwindawo yokuqala. Ukuba uthetha ukuthengisa ngokugqithiseleyo kodwa uyazikhumbuza rhoqo "Ukunamathela kwisicwangciso" okanye "Iimeko ezingathandekiyo" ukunciphisa ukunyanzeliswa ukwenza amashishini angachukumisi.