Musa ukucinga ukuba i-psychology yakho inendima ekuthengiseni kwakho? Cinga kwakhona. Nsuku zonke senza izinto eziliwaka esingaziqondi kakuhle. Le nto yinto eninzi ixesha, njengoko sasingaze senze nantoni na ukuba sasifanele sicinge ngokuthatha umoya ngamnye, ukugubungela iliso lethu, ukuma, ukuhamba, ukugqithisa, ukunyundela okanye ukuhambisa imizimba yethu ebusweni ukuze sibonise uvuyo okanye udabu.
Xa siqala ukurhweba, nangona kunjalo, zonke iinkqubo zethu "zokuzisebenzisa ngokuzenzekelayo" zifakiwe. Okusinceda sihambe ngehlabathi langaphandle sonakalisa ukurhweba kwethu. Asikwazi ukuguqula le nkqubo, kodwa siyakwazi ukuwaqonda, kwaye sithathe amanyathelo okuphinda senze inkqubo yethu yokuqhubela umzenzelo xa sifika kwi-yorhwebo yethu. Nazi iindlela ezine iingcinga zakho eziba ngumthengisi olahlekelwayo.
01 Uhlobo lokufumaneka
Uphando kunye nokumba ngokugqithiseleyo kunokusuka ngokungahambi kakuhle "ngolwazi oluqhelekileyo," ngoko ke bonke abathengisi bayacetyiswa ukuba bahlolisise amaqiniso kunye namanani ngaphambi kokuba baqhubeke besetyenziselwa ukusetyenziswa ngolu lwazi kwiirhwebo zabo.
Yiyiphi into enobungozi nabathengisi abaninzi, nangona kunjalo, ngamava abo. Yithi ufunde malunga nesicwangciso se-intanethi. Yonke into ibonakala ilungile, kwaye ngoko uqala ukuyisebenzisa. Ulahlekelwa yimisebenzi emihlanu ngokulandelana. Ukugculelwa kwakho ufuna isicwangciso esitsha. Amava akho, amahlanu kubo, akuxelele eli cwangciso liyilamba. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Kulungile kakhulu ukuba kodwa ungazi. Ingqondo yakho ikukhohlisile ukuba ucinge ukuba .
Ingxaki ngamava akho kukuba ngumthombo wenkcazelo elula kakhulu, kodwa phantse njalo incike kwixabiso elincinci lwedata. Qaphela ubungakanani beesampuli ezincinane. Awazi ukuba into ethile isebenza (okanye ayifuni) uze uyivavanye kakuhle . Isicwangciso esithetha ukurhweba kwiinyanga ezimbalwa okanye ukuthatha okungenani iimali eziyi-100. Ubuncinane ngamashishini angama-100, unombono othile wendlela owenza ngayo.
02 Ukulahlekelwa kwelahleko
Ingqondo yethu ibona ukulahlekelwa njengento ebalulekileyo kunenzuzo efanayo. Asiyithandi ukulahlekelwa yinto esele sinayo. Oku kunempembelelo enkulu xa sithengisa.
Xa sinezorhwebo ekulahlekelweni sinokuzama ukuphepha ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ilahleko, oko kuthetha ukuba sivulekele kude kubekho ukulahlekelwa okukhulu. Siya kuqikelela ngokuthi uhwebo luya kubuya kuthi, okanye siza kunika igumbi elincinci (ukwandisa ukulahleka kweelagi ) okanye sithi sithe tye kwaye i-marhwebo ayiphutha ... ngoko sibamba ukuhweba ngaphandle kwe Iimarike ziyisihlunu. Zininzi izizathu, kodwa zonke zivela kumbandela ofanayo ... ungathathi ilahleko xa kufuneka. Musa ukoyika ilahleko, nangona uninzi lwawo unako ukufumana inzuzo .
Cwangcisa ukuphuma kwakho ngaphambi kokuba urhwebo lwenzeke kwaye unamathele kwisicwangciso sakho.
03 Lottery Syndrome
Oku kufuna iinjongo ezinkulu , kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kungekho cwangciso esichazwe kakuhle. Iingcaka zithathwa. Imali iphonswa kwiimarike, enethemba lokushaya amanqaku amakhulu, kodwa ilahleko ziza kuqhubeka zongeza ngaphambi kokuba umhla wokuhlawula ufike.
Iphutha apha lihambelana nokubakho kokufumaneka. Ngenxa yokuba kulula kakhulu ukufumana intlawulo yokuhamba (ngokukhawuleza) - enokuba unokuncedisa kakhulu-yenza ukuba kubonakale kulula ukukhetha amashishini amakhulu ....
Oko ukukhangela kwakho kuya kufumana. Kulula ukulibala ukuba kukho iinkulungwane zezinto ezinokuthi zithengise. Kwaye akufuneki kuphela ukufumana okulungileyo, kufuneka udibanise ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ukuba uyenzeka ukuba ungene kwixabiso elikhulu ukuguquka, kufuneka kwakhona ukuthengiswa kakuhle. Uninzi lwabantu alukwazi ukusingatha le meko xa lukhula. Bathatha inzuzo encinci, kuphela ukubukela njengoko ixabiso liqhubeka lihamba kakuhle ngaphandle kwabo, okanye bahlala ixesha elide, banika yonke into. Ukurhweba kunye nethemba lokubetha elikhulu kumsebenzi ombalwa ngumntu oyisidenge. Ziqhelise ukuthengiswa kweentengiso eziqhelekileyo; kungenxa yalezo zihamba ukuba imali ihlala, kungekho kwi-unicorn trade trade.
04 Ukwazi iVs. Ukwenza
Iingqondo zethu zisoloko zisiqinisekisa ukuba ukuba sinokwazi, sinokukwenza ukuba sifuna. Thatha u kukhulula. Uninzi lwabantu bayazi ukuba ukuphucula ukutya kwabo kunye nokuzivocavoca ngakumbi kuya kubanceda banciphise ubunzima. Sekunjalo ngenxa yesizathu esithile, eli cebiso liqhutyelwa kwicala. Endaweni yoko, umntu ufuna ulwazi olutsha ... "Ndiyazi ukuba sele sele unike enye into ..."
Ukufunwa kolwazi kudla ngokuba ngumlinganiselo wokungenzi umsebenzi omele ukwenziwa. Kuziva kuvelisa, kodwa akunjalo.
Kukho izikhokelo ezisisiseko abazithengayo ukuba abaphumelele, kodwa ezi zinto zinyanzelwanga ("Ndiyazi kakade oku ..." kodwa uyenzile?).
Ezi zikhokelo zibandakanya ukwenza isicwangciso sokurhweba, sigxile kwisicwangciso esisodwa okanye amabini, singaphambuki kwisicwangciso sokurhweba (ngoko unokubona oko kusebenza nento engenziyo), ukuthengisa kwi-akhawunti ye-demo kude kube nesicwangciso sokungqina ngokuqhubekayo kwiimveliso ezininzi .
Abantu bafunda ezi zinto kodwa baxoshelwa kwiingcamango; baphosakela (baqikelele) bazi iinjongo ngokulandela ngokwenene nokuyenza. Esikhundleni sokusebenza kule ngcamango engundoqo yokuthengisa, baya kwenye enye ingcaciso. Kanti ulwazi olungakumbi alusebenzi xa ungalisebenzisi. Ekugqibeleni, kufuneka u-STOP uphendule (uyazi), kwaye uqalise ukwenza nokusebenzisa oko uyaziyo (ukwenza).