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Kuba abaninzi abazali baqhawula umtshato, imiba yokugcina ingqalelo yinto ebalulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba inkundla inenjongo enye: ukuqinisekisa ukuba isivumelwano sokugcina umtshato emva kokuqhawula umtshato sihamba phambili kumntwana. Xa kunokwenzeka, iinkundla zifuna ukubona abazali bobabini baqhubeka bebandakanyeka ebomini bomntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato.

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1. Indlela endibona ngayo, i-ex ex ikhefu iyalishiya abantwana bethu ngexesha elithemba ngalo. Ngaba inkundla ayiyi kubona ngale ndlela, na? Iinkundla zixhalabele ngakumbi ngobuhlobo bakhe nabantwana ngaphezu kobudlelwane bakho bomtshato. Ukuba wayebandakanyekile ebomini babo ngaphambi kokuba kuqhawule umtshato, ngoko kunengqiqo ukulindela ukuba inkundla iza kuxhasa ukubandakanyeka kwakhe emva kokuqhawula umtshato - ngokubambisana ngokubambisana okanye amalungelo okuvakasha okhenketho.

1. Umfazi wam wangaphambili uhlala nomnye umfazi, kwaye andifuni ukuba abantwana bethu bahlale nabo. Ngaba iinkundla ziza kubona ukuba oku kungonakalisa? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba inkundla inokuthi ingabelani ngezimvo zakho malunga nefuthe lobuhlobo bobulili obufanayo kubantwana. Okwesibini, ukusuka kwinqanaba lenkundla, ukuphika abantwana bakho ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nomzali bokuba lunobungozi ngakumbi kunokuba nantoni na ukuba bangaboniswa kuyo ngokuqhagamshelana nomfazi wakho wangaphambili.
2. Ngaba akunakwenzeka ukuba i-ex yangaphambili ilahlekelwe amalungelo akhe omntwana? Ngokuqhelekileyo uthetha, akukho. Nangona engazange asebenzise amalungelo akhe okugcina umntwana, iinkundla zinokukhetha ukuba emva koko zibeke uxanduva lokuhlawulwa kwabantwana kwimeko apho wena okanye umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo lwezezimali.
3. Sinesivumelwano sokugcinwa kwabantwana besikhashana, kodwa i-ex yangu iyaqhubeka iphosa ukuba ndihambe ixesha lokutyelela. Nangona kunjalo, ndivakalelwa kukuba abantwana bethu badinga ukusetyenziswa kwishedyuli esinayo ngaphambi kokuba senze utshintsho. Ndingenza ntoni? Xoxa ngale meko ngethuba lakho lokudala kwaye umise imithetho ethile yomhlaba yokutshintsha ishedyuli. Ngokomzekelo, izicelo zokutshintshwa kufuneka zihanjiswe ubuncinane ngesaziso seeyure ezingama-24, kwaye izicelo zifuna ukuhamba ngawe kuqala ngaphambi kokucetyiswa kubantwana.

Umthetho woKwabazali abangatshatanga

Kubazali abangatshatanga, imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana ihluke kwilizwe ukuya kwilizwe. Amanye amazwe afuna oomama abangatshatanga ukuba bafake iifowuni zokugcinwa kwabantwana, ngelixa ezinye iimeko zicinga ukuba unina ongatshatanga unogada. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ootata abangatshatanga banako ukufakela amalungelo okugcinwa kunye nokuvakatyezelwa, nokuba ngaba abafakwe kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa.

Nazi ezinye zezinto eziqhelekileyo malunga namalungelo okugcinwa kwabazali abangatshatanga:

1. Andizange ndibeke igama lami lokugqibela kwisitifiketi sokuzalwa, kodwa ngoku uthi ufuna ukufaka ifowuni. Ngaba unokukwenza oku? Ewe. Nangona ubaba onokuzalwa engabhalwanga kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa, unako ukufaka ifowuni yokugcina umntwana kunye / okanye ukutyelela.
2. Umdala wam kwaye mna ndivumile ukuba ndiya kuba nelungelo lokugcina umntwana wethu emva kokuzalwa kwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ufuna ukutyelela rhoqo. Ngaba iinkundla zinikezela ngokutyelela ebusuku? Inkundla ezininzi aziyi kunika iimbali kude kube ngumntwana ubuncinane abathathu. Okwangoku, iifutshane, ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokukhuthazwa ukwenzela ukuba unxibelelwano oluqinileyo lusekwe ekuqaleni.
3. Ndifuna ukuba utata wam umntwana athathe inxaxheba ebomini bakhe, kodwa uyaqhubeka eqalela ukutyelela. Ngaba uya kumsa enkundleni? Ngelixa iinkundla zinikezela amalungelo okutyelela, azikho kwi shishini lokunyanzelisa abazali ukuba basebenzise lawo ma lungelo. Khawuqwalasele ukuthetha nomntu wakho malunga nesizathu sokuba akwenqabe ukusebenzisa amalungelo akhe kunye nendlela onokumnceda ngayo ukuzithemba kwizakhono zakhe zomzali.
4. Ndiye ndandisa unyana wam iminyaka emine. Ngoku, wam owayengabandakanyekanga ebusweni bendodana yam, uye wagqiba ukutshata nomhlobo wakhe omtsha kwaye ufuna ukufaka ifowuni. Ngaba uzama nje ukuphuma ekuhlawuleni umntwana? Ngaba kufuneka ndikhathazeke? Ngenxa yokungabikho kokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bendodana yakho kude kube yile ngongoma, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba ungumama ongafanelekanga ukuze unqobe umntwana. Nangona oko akunakwenzeka, kufuneka ukhulume negqwetha malunga necala lakho kwaye uqale ukuzilungiselela ukuba mhlawumbi uya kunikwa iindwendwe kunye nonyana wakho.

Izixhobo zabazali ababandakanyekayo kwiingxabano zokuzimela

Nangona uzimisele ukuzithimela enkundleni, kufuneka uxoxe ngemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho kunye negqwetha elifanelekileyo. Ngethamsanqa, uncedo olusemthethweni luyafumaneka kulabo abafanelekayo.

• Xhumana noNcedo lwezomthetho kwilizwe lakho.
• Qhagamshelana nezikolo zomthetho zengingqi ukubuza malunga neekliniki zomthetho zamahhala.
• Ukuba uxhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya, qha ga mshelana nommandla wendawo yokuhlala ukuze ubuze malunga noncedo lomthetho.
• Cwangcisa ukubonisana kwamahhala kunye negqwetha elifanelekileyo lokugcinwa komntwana kwimeko yakho.

Iingcebiso kubazali ababandakanyekayo kwi-Child Customization Battle

1. Fumana igqwetha olithembayo. Ukuphumelela kwimeko yokugcinwa kwengane yimalunga ngaphezu kokuqonda imithetho yokugcina abantwana. Kwakhona kunyanzelekile ukuba uzive ukhululekile kunye negqwetha lakho kwaye uzive ukuba umele wena.

1. Yenza umsebenzi wakho wasekhaya. Ukuthatha inxaxheba ngokwakho kwimeko yakho ngokwenza uphando oluninzi njengoko unako, ukuthatha amanyathelo okunyusa aphakanyiswe ngummeli wakho, kwaye uzilungiselele ngokufanelekileyo ukuvalelwa kwengane yakho.
2. Musa ukwenza nto ukunyusa ityala kuwe. Yikhumbule ukuba igqwetha lakho le-ex liyakwazi ukujonga ulwazi lokusebenzisa ngokuchasene nawe, ngoko qiniseka ukuba uziphathe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ugweme izibambano ezimbi kunye lakho lokuqala.

Imithetho yeMigangatho yamazwe angama-50

Urhulumente ngamnye unemithetho eyahlukileyo yokugcina abantwana. Amanye amazwe acinga ukuba abazali banamalungelo okubambisana, ngelixa ezinye iindawo azikho. Ukongezelela, abanye bathi bacinga ukuba kwimeko yabazali abangatshatanga, umama ngokuzenzekelayo unalo, kanti abanye balindele ukuba oomama abangabodwa bafake i-custody, nokuba ngaba ubaba akabandakanyeki. Cofa kwigama lakho kwimeko engezantsi ukuze ufunde kabanzi malunga nemithetho yokugcinwa komntwana ekulawuleni kwakho.

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