Ngaba uyaphula ngomkhuhlane obandayo xa uxoxa ngokuthanda kwakho? Ngaba unokunyamekela ukucinga malunga nokuba ngaba kuya kuba nemali eyaneleyo yokuhlala kuyo xa indoda yakho ifa? Ngaba unokucinga malunga nokuba yiphi inyane eliya kuqhuba ishishini xa ushona; mayeke uxoxe ngazo kwintlanganiso yeentsapho?
Igama elithi "D"
Umqobo wokuqala wokutshatyalaliswa ubhekane nokufa kwakho. Nanini na ndidibana nomthengi ndizama ukulinda de ukuba basebenzise u-uphemism wabo wokufa, ngoko ndiyisebenzisa loo ntetho kuyo yonke inkomfa. Kukho ukhetho olubanzi lwegama elithi "D" - "gqithisa," "ukukhaba ibhakethi," "udibane nomenzi wam," "xa kukho into eyenzekayo kum," "uhlaselwe yilori, , "" Iinyawo ezintandathu phantsi "- nje ukubiza ezimbalwa. Abantu baya kuthetha nantoni kunokuba "xa ndifa."
Abanye abantu banamathele kwiinkolelo zokuthi ukwenza intando kubangela ukufa. Inkolelo-ze, ewe, kodwa ke, iyithintelo yangempela kubantu abaninzi.
Ukunika Ulawulo
Eyona nto ibambezelayo kukuba ukwesaba ukuyeka ukulawula. Ukucwangciswa kwezindlu akuthethi ukunika impahla yakho ngaphandle. Abantu abaninzi bayazi ukuba kufuneka benze into ekunciphiseni irhafu, kodwa ukwesaba ukunikezela ukulawula impahla yabo kubantwana babo. Bayiva amava amaninzi amaninzi malunga nabantwana abangenabongi abachitha imali yosapho kunye nokubuyela kubazali babo.
Uninzi lwabantu lufuna iindlela zombini - bafuna ukugcina ukulawula okungazalwanga ngokupheleleyo kwiimpahla zabo kunye nokuhlawula irhafu yentlawulo. Kukho iindlela zokuvumela ukutshintshwa ngexesha lo kugcina ulawulo olukhulu, kwaye kukho iindlela zokukhusela iimali. Ukufunda malunga nale ndlela iyingxenye yenkqubo yokucwangcisa umhlaba.
Ukujongana noMmeli
Uloyiko lokusebenzisana negqwetha lenye ingxaki enkulu. (Ukuzonwabisa: I-Dikigorosophobia ukwesaba abagwebi.) Usenokuba ukwesaba ukuba igqwetha liza kucinga ukuba awufundile, ungenakuqhelaniswa. Ngaba uzizwa ungafundile kuba kufuneka ubize umnxebi ukuba alungise isimo se-air conditioner? Akunjalongo noko! Ngendlela efanayo ongazi ngayo indlela yokulungisa i-air conditioner, awukwazi ukugqiba isicwangciso sezinto ezipheleleyo. Oku akusikho ukubonakalisa kwisicatshulwa okanye umlingiswa wakho.
Usenokuba ukwesaba ukuba ugqitywe yimirhumo yommeli , okanye ukwesaba ukuba ugqwetha alinakukuphulaphula kwaye uya kuhamba phambili ngesicwangciso esiqhelekileyo ongazifunayo. Isihluthulelo sokunqoba ezo ntswelo sifumana igqwetha elifanelekileyo. Kukho nantoni na enye, ukuhanjiswa kumthengi oyanelisayo kudla ngokuba yindlela efanelekileyo. [Buza bakho abahlobo abasebenzisa igqwetha lomhlaba. Njengezinye iinqununu ezibalulekileyo, kukulungile ukwenza uphando kwaye uthethe nabameli abambalwa, okanye iifemu, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokuqesha.
Iindleko
Kubiza ntoni? Ukwesaba indleko yinto enye egcina abantu bezocwangciso. Masijamelane nayo. Ukucwangciswa kwezindlu akukhona kuwe - kungenxa yabo oshiya ngasemva. Awuyi kukulimaza ngerhafu yezindlu.
Uya kuba "uhambe ixesha elide." Awuyi kuxoxisana nabani ofumana iwashi lomkhulu-abantwana baya kufuneka bafune ukuphuma. Ngoko ingakanani imali (ungakhange ukhankanye ixesha kunye namandla anemvakalelo) ngaba uzimisele ukuchitha kwisicwangciso sezinto zendlu yakho? Ukucwangciswa kwezindlu ngokuqinisekileyo kuyisipho kwintsapho yakho. Qaphela ukuba yintoni - ukunakekela abanye. Ukushiya isicwangciso esilungelwe kakuhle emva kwesipho esihle kunazo zonke onokunika intsapho yakho. Hlela imicimbi yakho ukwenza okulungileyo kwintsapho yakho, abahlobo, kunye nezoncedo.
Ungesabi ukubuza indlela ummeli onetyala ngayo. Uninzi lwabagwebi baya kuhlawulisa ireyithi yehora, kwaye unokulindela ukuhlawula umlinganiselo ophezulu kwizengcali (umzekelo, oogqirha beentliziyo bahlawula ngaphezu kwabahlengikazi). Ezinye izicwangciso zezindlu zenziwa ngexabiso elithembekileyo, kodwa uqikelelo alukwazi ukunikezelwa ide igqwetha likwazi oko kuza kubandakanywa .
Phantse akukho mntu ufumana "intando elula." Eninzi ibandakanyekayo kwisicwangciso sendawo kunokuthanda, kwaye yonke imeko yentsapho iyahluke.
Izibophelelo Zentsapho
Iinqununu zentsapho ezinqabileyo zenye ikhubekiso. Ingaba kukho umtshato oza kutshatyalaliswa omnye wabantwana bakho? Ngaba omnye wabazukulu abaneemfuno ezizodwa? Ngaba wena okanye lakho iqabane uza Ngubani oya kulawula ishishini losapho emva kokuba abazali befile? Ukujongana nale miba kunokuba buhlungu kangangokuthi kugwenywa ngonaphakade. Emva koko, i-mess mess is left behind. Ukuphepha ingxaki ayifuni.
Kuthekani ukuba omnye wabantwana ungaphakathi kunye nokuphuma kweziyobisi, okanye omnye wezingane uyimpumelelo, kwaye omnye ungumzali ongenamzali onomntwana oncinci kunye nomvuzo omncinci womvuzo. Ngaba aba bana baphathwa ngokulinganayo kwisicwangciso sefa okanye ngaba uyayichitha umntwana ?
Kuthiwani ngeentsapho ezidibeneyo - abantwana banabakho, bam kunye neyethu. Ngaba bonke babelana ngokulinganayo kumabini omama noTata? Ukujongana nezigqibo ezinzima ezifana nalezi kunzima. Ummeli wezocwangciso zomhlaba unokukunceda ngokukunika ukhetho kunye nokukhetha. Ngaba ufuna ukuba omnye umntu enze ezi zigqibo emva kokuba ufile? Okubi kakhulu, ngaba ufuna ukuba intsapho yakho ibhujiswe ngokulwa nefa lakho?