Ukucela Ukunyuswa koMntwana kwiNkundla

Fumana ukuba iinqununu ziqwalasela ukulungiswa kwabantwana

Iimeko zitshintsha. Ngoko nangona inkxaso yezingane sele isungulwe ngokusemthethweni, unokwazi ukubuyela emva kwaye ucele ukuguqulwa komntwana. Ingaba ufuna ukuba ulungelelaniso ukuba libe lixesha elifutshane okanye unaphakade, yilokho okufuneka ukwazi malunga nokucela ukulungiswa komntwana kwinkxaso yenkundla:

Nini ukucela Ulungiso lweNkxaso yoMntwana

Kwinkoliso ezininzi, emva kokuba abazali behluke, ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kuqhubeka, okubhekwa njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokuqhawula / yokuhlukanisa.

Abantwana abancinci, abaneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18, banelungelo lokufumana inqanaba elifanayo lokuncedwa kwabo ukuba ngaba abazali ababini bahlala ndawonye. Kwintetho yenkundla, ngamnye umzali kufuneka alungiselele ukubonisa ubungqina bakhe bokuhlawula umntwana inkxaso. Ubungqina obugqwesileyo yile ntlawulo yerhafu yakutsha nje kunye neentsuku zokuhlawula ngokutsha. Emva kokuba inkundla iyalise umlinganiselo othile wokuxhasa abantwana, kudla njalo ukuba umzali omnye unokufuna ukuguqula isivumelwano sokuxhasa umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, umzali ofuna ukuguqulwa kwenkxaso yabantwana kuya kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba utshintsho lweemeko.

Ziziphi izinto eziqwalaselwa kwiNkxaso yeNkxaso yabantwana?

Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba umzali angafuna ukuguqulwa kwenkxaso yabantwana kuquka:

• Ukuncipha kwengeniso: Ngethuba lokunciphisa umnotho, ngokuqhelekileyo umzekelo ukuba umzali omnye ulahlekelwe yimali engenayo eyona nto, kwaye ngenxa yoko, umzali angenako ukuhlangabezana nokunyanzela uxanduva lwabazali okanye umgcini-nkonzo oyintloko unokufuna ukwanda kwenkxaso kuba yena / akakwazi ukuxhasa umntwana ngomyinge ohlawulwe ngorhulumente wenxaso yangoku.

• Ukwandiswa kweembopheleleko zabantwana abancinci: Njengabantwana beminyaka, iimfuno zabo ziyanda. Abanye abantwana banokufuna iibrase okanye baqale ukuthatha inxaxheba emva kwemisebenzi yesikolo. Umzali osisigxina angase afune inkxaso eyongezelelweyo yabantwana ukuncedisa kwiindleko ezinxulumene nabantwana abakhulileyo.
• Ukwandiswa kwezixanduva eziqhelekileyo: Umzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo unokufumana abantwana abaninzi okanye atshate / kwakhona. Ngako oko, umzali unokufuna ukunciphisa umthwalo wakhe wokuxhasa umntwana kumntwana omnye ukwandisa inkxaso yabantwana abasemva.

• Ilifa elikhulu okanye ukwanda okukhulu kwinzuzo: Ukuba umzali okhuselekileyo ufumanisa ukuba umzali onoxanduva lokuhlawulwa kweentlawulo zenkxaso yabantwana (umbophelelo) ungumzuzi wemali eninzi, umzali okhuselekileyo unokucinga ukucela inkundla ukuba inyuke xanduva lwa bantwana. Ngaloo ndlela, umbophelelo unokuba nexanduva lokuhlawulwa kwentlawulo yenkxaso yabantwana, ngokusekelwe kwenyuka yengeniso.

Ixeshana neNguqulelo yoNcedo lwaBantwana abasigxina

Inkundla inokunika isilungiso sesikhashana okanye esigxina sokuxhasa abantwana. Ukuguqulwa kwesikhashana yinkcitho enkulu yenkcitho yexesha elilodwa kwiimfuno zomntwana, njengendleko yeebhonki okanye iifom yesikolo. Ukuguqulwa ngokusisigxina kubonisa utshintsho olukhulu kwiimfuno zomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana unemfuno ezizodwa, iindleko ezinxulumene nazo ziyakuthi zanda ngokusisigxina.

Iimbopheleleko zokuxhaswa kwabantwana zingabangela ukunyanzelisa ngokwemvakalelo kunye nezezimali kwiintsapho kunye nabantwana. Inkxaso yokuxhasa abantwana iyimfuneko kwiimeko ezininzi ukugcina umlinganiselo phakathi kwezindlu ezimbini. Emva kokuba umyalelo wokuqala wokuxhasa ukhona, ubomi bebomi buhlala buguquka, ngamanye amaxesha kuba ngcono. Ngaloo ndlela, kubakho imfuneko ukuguqula umyalelo wokuxhasa umntwana.

Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.